Thursday, August 24, 2006
E-mail Advice-"punch her in the face!"
I have finally built up a readership at my blog big enough to attract reader's question via e-mail. For the past week I've gotten e-mails from people eager to receive information in regards to their love life, life or relationships (be it boyfriend/girlfriend/family member/friend). Below is the very first e-mail that I received.
From : King***@hotmail,com
Sent : Wednesday, August 20, 2006 9:25 AM
Subject : punch her in the face!
I have been reading your blog for some time now. Maybe about 4 monts. I admire what you have 2 say and the way you say em. This is the thing, dude. My girlfriend is always fucking nagging me to death. I wanna punch her in the face sometimes. Turns out the other day when she kept whinning, I pushed her so hard she fell on the floor and hit her head and was knocked out. I aint a violent dude I just want her to shut the hell up for a day. Advice?
Fed up guy
What's up Fed Up Guy?
Well, first I'd suggest playing karate with a tree outside. Get a punching bag or go to your local gym, put on some gloves and have at it. Just don't punch, hit or push a female like that. Men are a tad stronger than women, and you know that they can call the police and yell, "Man! Hit!" And the cops are there as quick as a porno star pulls his pants down and whips out his... Magic stick?
The best thing to do is let her scream and holler. Yes, that is the best thing to do. Let her scream her head off and get all the sh*t she has to say out. Have you ever seen a movie where the hero has to fight lots and lots of villains and when he gets to the BIG BOSS he is warn out. This gives the BOG BOSS more of an upper hand in winning the battle. The same goes for letting her speak the wind out of her lungs.
When she has finished, politely tell her how you feel. Don't scream or get an attitude and for God's sake, DON'T IGNORE HER and treat the situation like it's not important. Tell her that whatever she is nagging you about can be worked out. But she has to work on organizing a time and place to speak about her problems. You are only human and you can't be perfect.
Now, this is where things get a little tricky. If she doesn't hear a word you say and she continues to yell and not compromise in regards to how you feel, even though you respected her by listening, tell her that you feel insulted. Oh yeah. This throws women off when men open up and show emotion. Even if you could care less as to whether she cares if you are insulted or hurt. This is a nicer way of saying, "you're really pissing me the hell off."
Women pretend like their Gods and they don't know when to apologize, but when they have fights with family or friends and they know they are wrong they will apologize. When they discover they are uncompromising, rude and very insensitive towards your feelings, she will know she's to blame, though she wont admit that. Most men feel like it's their responsibility to say 'sorry' even if it's not their fault. I think that's bullshit. After stating what you have to say, get up and leave. Don't leave as if you're mad. Leave as if you are hurt, frustrated and devastated.
Don't stay gone too long. Just walk around the block or take a short drive. Come back and if she has calmed down, don't say anything about the situation. This means she's sorry, though she won't say those words. If she is still angry about the situation, I hate to say this, but it's time to let her go. If your relationship is reduced to her being unhappy with you every day of the week you need to ask yourself, "why are we together?" Tough choice, but you guys have reached the tipping point. It's either WORK IT OUT or GIVE IT UP.
Now, you should approach the situation how you feel. You don't have to do everything that I just suggested above. These are only suggestions. Keep me posted on how things turn out and I hope everything goes well. Much love, peace and empathy to the both of you.
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Posted by Poetiq Expression at 24.8.06