When it comes to love, or loan installments, we don't want to rush; for example, someone who were to say, "I love you," too fast. Most times, if we're "saying I love you too fast" we feel as though we may get ourselves into trouble This is understandable, after all, we want to make sure our feelings are based on even a small level of strong foundation. Here are 3 tips to help you know when your boy toy or the girl of your dreams may just be saying those three words too fast.
1. DON'T RUSH THE VULNERABILITY OF I LOVE YOU
If you have only been DATING for less than a week, and you barely know one another, saying I love you can seem way too quick. Fellas, this can sometimes scare a female, because while lots of men wait until they know for certain before saying I love you, there are a slew of guys out there who say it just to better manipulate. Saying those words can cause lots of vulnerability, and that type of power of another person shouldn't be thrown around lightly. And, it's a matter of principle that if you start to make the person you're courting uncomfortable, you should back off. This doesn't mean that you can't continue pursuing a relationship, but it just shows that the breaks need to be pressed.
2. DON'T PRESSURE THE WORDS, "I love you," OUT OF ANYONE
Ladies, if you notice that he avoids those three words like it's cancer it's best you stop saying them so much. And it's not a normal thing for him to say "i love you" to fast. Remember, while it feels nice for you to express your feelings in that way, it may not be comfortable for him. This means that you should try showing your love in other ways. Thinking about a show he likes and buying the season on DVD, or telling him the score of a sports came he may have missed. Little things like that (and not to sound cliched, but FOOD also) can SHOW him how you feel and then he's better open to hear, "I love you,".... or even say it first!
3. BE CAUTIOUS OF YOUR LOVER AND WHETHER THEY ARE COMFORTABLE
Lastly, if both of you know your relationship is mostly based on sex, while it's nice you have discovered a special connection with another person, it may not be based on love, or love in the unconditionally romantic sense. Time needs to progress, like it does to pay back loan installments, before verbal words that carry weight are spoken. It may seem like no big deal, but words can be just as damaging as a weapon, and lots of people have gone through heartaches (or have caused them), so choosing your words wisely can be very important for the future.
All in all, even though you feel strongly about one another, unless you're willing to instantly go out and, say, get a loan installment to pay any bills a future boa may be behind in, I think it's important to hold off the strong, or heavy, verbal claims of, "I love you" too fast.